You cannot separate music and sex. In the first instance, dancing turns me on and prepares me well for sex. In the second, it serves as a great background before, during and after sex. The issue comes when you need to determine what kind of music works at that time. Some people would rather have sensual slow songs play as the background, others even hard rock metal. All this really depend on who you are with, where,… among other things to consider.

The following are some of the songs I have realized work perfectly well for me in the bedroom.

NB: They are in no particular order, and of course they depend on who I’m with.

1. Satisfaction by Benny Benassi

This electro-house music mix by this popular dj and producer just gets it going for me. ‘Push me/  and then just touch me/ Til’ I can get my satisfaction’

And no! It’s not just the lyrics; it’s the varying yet steady rhythm that keeps me there. The mental image as well, of the satisfaction I will give or get. The video-a hot ‘mama’ in a bikini working her way with a drill at a construction site is just too hot. This track is guaranteed to get your partner wanting to satisfy you (or vice versa)   .

1. My neck, my back (lick it) by Khia

‘My neck, my back, lick my pussy and my crack’

Do I really need to say anything while Khia is already doing it for me?

It’s especially ‘hotter’ when I’m with a woman coz I know for sure we won’t get it wrong at all. Plus, we can keep at it for a very very very long time.

1. Sober by Pink

This rock song works best for me when I’m having solo sex. Me touching myself and making love to my own image.

1. Stir it up by Bob Marley

Believe it or not, this one really does ‘stir-up’ those sexy vibes within me; it’s calculated repetitiveness works to bring them up to the surface. Let’s play this song and let’s dance together naked and you have got me wrapped around your little finger and at your service all night.

1. Ullyses by Franz Ferdinand.

Since I heard it, this guy has been my greatest. Ulysses takes me to new places whenever I hear it. This means that during that moment (with Ullyses playing), my thoughts do take flight to someplace new and wild (with my lover).

1. So high by Toni Braxton

‘Oh, I get to high when I’m around you baby, I can touch the sky, you make my temperatures rise’

Since I was a teen, Tony B has always raised my temperatures. I think she is hot! Her voice, her body..let me play this as you strip for me and I drool at your abs (or vice versa).

1. Sexual Healing by Marvin Gaye

An 80’s track that will remain timeless and sexy. Let’s have sex and heal each other baby! Thank you Marvin, for praising the positive aspects of sex.

1. Love Scene by Joe

‘Lets make a love scene, smoky and blue…’ he sings.

Who doesn’t want to do that? Yes, take me slow, take me deep, just lets make this scene smoking hot hot!

1. How do you want it by Tupac

Yes! I love hip hop and I will tell you how I want it, if you ask.

1. King of sorrow by Sade

Pain and pleasure for me are very closely linked. Works best when tied up by someone who knows how it’s done. I want to go after this King who kills me with pain, just to get that moments pleasure but I can’t coz ‘m all tied up.

Her smooth voice is enough to get me in a trance..and you know you can get away with anything at that time.

BONUS:

a) Peaches and cream by 112. For a bit of ‘playing’ (fun with food) before we get deep into the act.

 b) Do me by P Square. On the dance floor before we go home. This is guaranteed to have me creating images of how I want to ‘do you’ or the way I want you to ‘do me’.

What about you, what music/songs work for you and why?