Besides giving or receiving a gentle sensual scalp massage during foreplay, the brushing of natural hair on my skin extremely heightens my sexual desire.

I’m talking about that involuntary brush or the intended/voluntary slow tease of hair sweeping down or across either my back or front side. An approach from behind (paying attention to the neck as well) is animalistic-; a natural instinct that leaves me craving for more. You don’t even need to touch me, just let your natural hair (not oily or weaved) touch and communicate with my skin.

For those who like to have their hair pulled, gently stroked or touched at the height of the moment (like me), fresh natural hair already provides an invitation.

And I guess this is one reason why weaves just do not do it in bed. We all would love to play with or bury our hands into ‘real’ hair and let the tips of our fingers touch and stimulate that ‘natural’ scalp.

This is also another reason why you shouldn’t be surprised when someone says that he/she loves pubic hair (Yes, not everyone is ga-ga about the Brazillian wax). Seeing or touching each other’s pubic hair does heighten sexual desire for some people. Gently stroking each other’s pubic hair (after sex) is a sign of appreciation and acceptance of what just happened, not to mention the relaxing feeling it brings.

Hair (especially natural) can be a very powerful aphrodisiac; the way it looks, feels and smells can turn you on or turn-you-off. Even on a man, nice and clean-cut is good enough, not smelly, sweaty or oily.

So while your prepare every inch of your body and mind for those intimate moments, do not forget the power of your hair.

Warning: Be sure to check with your partner about her likes & dislikes when it comes to hair. Communication is key…