Almost everybody has fantasized or been pressured into a threesome at one point in their lives. It wasn’t until I had my first experience that I realized how important it was to carefully choose who you should have a threesome with.

I thought it was important for me to be with both a woman and a man that I liked so I did just that. It was actually the man who wanted a threesome; I mean, I had thought and fantasized about it but I’d never acted out on it until then.

The woman was a long time lover of mine, the man –not so long, but I really liked him and he was so very sexy.

Everything was going extremely well until I broke down and cried. I just couldn’t take it. What exactly? You might ask.

I don’t really know; just imagine this was my first time, these were two people I liked and here we were doing something crazy-almost hellish (or so I thought at that time).

They were both shocked (like I was myself) and have never forgotten to date.

I have had a couple more threesomes but never involving two people I like too much.

Along the way, I have also realized that yes, some threesome can take place without really having planned for them, and these are always so much better, crazier and more exciting.

So before you jump into a threesome, chose your participants very carefully. If you like one person too much, you can let him/her take a voyeuristic role-let her/him just be the observer. This would be the case for someone you like too much but can’t stand to see him/her being touched or touching/having sex with someone else.

And of course you shouldn’t forgot to be safe…